I had no confidence whatsoever in myself as a person or a woman.
"I had no confidence whatsoever in myself as a person or a woman. I constantly worried that I wasn’t good enough for my husband or my kids. As a very young girl, I was being sexually abused by my cousins in the brethren. I tried twice to commit suicide. I thought my life was worthless."
Alona Lyons, from America, cares deeply for people, in particular those who get treated badly, she is passionate about life, especially when it comes to making life happy for her little family and she falls in love very quickly. She describes her awesome husband and family as a truly incredible blessing, saying they make her feel like the luckiest person alive.
How many years have you been free?
What is the one thing in life you’re so happy you did? (other than escaping).
I’m so happy I had my kids young. I love that I can be a young mom and look forward to being young enough to enjoy life after my kids have left home. Aside from that, I’m super happy I got a pet! The love of a pet is like nothing else you will experience. It is so fully and completely unwrong to have a pet.
What would you tell your younger self?
Hang on! Your life is going to be so awesome! Also, it’s ok to want to be happy.
Who is the one person who changed your life the most?
My husband. We met in the darkest time of my life. I was a very young girl being sexually abused by my cousins in the brethren. I tried twice to commit suicide. I thought my life was worthless. Then I met Jerry and even though every brethren ‘leader’ and many of his closest friends told him to leave me because of what an awful person I was, he never did! I was labelled a ‘whore’ because of the abuse taking place. Notably to this day, the male cousins (adults now) never received any labels or even condemnation for the atrocities they committed against me.
What is the biggest lesson(s) you’ve learnt since starting your new life?
That even the darkest night will end, and the sun will shine again. Faith over fear.
What are you most grateful about being able to do now as a woman that you couldn’t do before?
I absolutely love that I can work outside the home and provide for my family.
What is most important for your mental health?
Being able to get up and leave my house and go to work every day.
What should be required reading for every woman?
I love my daily devotions I read. Personally, I couldn’t get through the day without them.
What in your life gave you courage?
I think my faith mostly. Also watching my kids suffer every day in there gave me courage to leave and the memories of them suffering gives me the courage to keep going.
What ignites your sense of injustice?
Seeing a system of power control over the lesser being.
What’s the greatest gift we can give ourselves?
What’s the greatest gift we can give each other?
Love and support
Is there anything else you’d love to say?
I’d love to say to any women in there, you’re worth so much more than you believe. You can do anything you set your mind to. Love yourself enough to free yourself.
Thank you so much Alona Lyons for sharing so freely about some of the most difficult times in your
life. You will no doubt be an inspiration to so many others who have yet to find their voices.