Give. But don't allow yourself to be used.
Updated: Jun 30
If you are anything like me you'll know just how easy is it to give freely of yourself to those around you, and then wonder why you'd feel taken advantage of time and time again.
Well finally my frog brain finally woke up to the fact that it was for 2 reasons:
1) I was pretty indescriminate about who I gave to - meaning I didn't stop to see if it was wise for me to give to these people. I thought more about their 'needs' than I did about taking care of my own - something I alone could do.
2) I did not establish clear boundaries - communicating to the receipent that they could have as much as they liked. There was no end to my giving nauture.
When I looked at it with this new understanding, things made a lot of sense!
And I even realised that at times I'd been a taker, from really wonderful friends who'd been such amazing givers, but had failed to set boundaries.
Explaining why they'd just ghosted on me rather than finding a way to set boundaries!
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